Posted on July 20, 2017
Don’t let anyone lie to you; emotions matter. How you manage your emotions enables you to live authentically and successfully. Emotions are not meant to be suppressed. Neither should you overindulge or oversimplify how you feel.
Your emotions have a purpose and when you are able to gauge what you feel or why you feel–you can use your emotions as directional signals to achieve your goals and dreams.
One of the most powerful and most needful emotions for kingdom living is joy.
“These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full.” John 15:11
Joy is one of the golden nuggets in your spiritual treasure chest. You have inherited joy. Joy is not an emotion that you conjure up. Joy is the feeling you have when you are doing something you love–enjoyable actions.
Do you have your own business and looking to increase sales?
Are you thinking about starting your own business?
Are you deciding on what kind of college degree you want to register for?
Are you looking for more engaging activities for your parishioners?
Are you looking for new hobbies?
Your joy level can help you decide.
Life is too short to waste it on things you don’t enjoy or on things that don’t build you up. Joy is the fuel that keeps you on a particular activity or business endeavor until a productive end. Joy is the gasoline in your heart-tank. Without a full tank of joy, it’s easy to get discouraged and complacent.
Kingdom living is all about right attitude and right living. Right living is all about utilizing kingdom principles for the promised life.
Joy in the midst of sorrow is possible not by suppressing sorrow or by pretending it doesn’t exist. True joy is first the feeling of pleasure and delight. Joy is the emotion that says “You can overcome, don’t give up.” So, in moments of distress, do the things that give you pleasure. When you’re down, you don’t want to do anything, but the spirit of wisdom speaks to you and says “You can overcome.” Faith says “I will overcome.” Joy says “Let’s do the things you enjoy as a healthy distraction.”
Let’s say you love baking cookies. Me, I love eating cookies. But, let’s say as a hobby you bake really good cookies. You can bring your cookies to your local hospital to give to the children and medical staff. Your cookies will bring joy to those that receive them and you’ll get joy from their happy response to your generosity.
I know a children’s heart surgeon. His passion is helping dying children. One day he gave me a box of handmade chocolate caramel clusters–delicious! As we talked, he told me he makes these treats to help him unwind and diffuse his medical stress. After he makes his treats and wraps them in a beautiful white box, he sells them and all the proceeds go towards a children’s fund.
He took a hobby and made it a mission. What about you? What’s in you?
The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. John 10:10
You have the ability to make your gifts and talents a profitable endeavor; spiritually, emotionally and financially.
Joy is the gasoline of the Kingdom. Joy walks with you through the valley of the shadow of death. Joy rewards you with fruitfulness. Joy removes the burden of self-doubt and despair. There is no end to joy. God just keeps it coming if you open up your heart.
Let joy accompany you to your next level of greatness. You are more than a conqueror. After you conquer; you can conquer some more.
Keep your joy tank full. There’s so much that your Heavenly Father has set apart for you to enjoy.
Keep your spirit hydrated with the presence of the Holy Spirit and your mind renewed with truth and creativity. You are unstoppable and powerful. Keep your joy up!
Posted on July 11, 2017
If you’re like me, you probably thought to yourself in high school, “Am I going to need this in the real world?” So, I asked one of my teachers (the young handsome one of course) “Probably not” he said.
I grew up in the inner city. Twelve years of public education and I can honestly say that I didn’t need at least 60% of it. Gone were the after-school programs, home economics classes, competitive sports and technical trainings to prepare me for the employment market. Everyone is not cut out for college. After enrolling into three colleges and dropping out the first semester of each one–sheeesh, I completed my degree at my fourth college. I had a boat load of student loans and no real job experience. Stuck again.
I said all of that to say, my mind was filled with information and most of it was useless. My soul was for-sure out of whack.
Your soul is your control center. Nope, not your spirit. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. (Matthew 26:41)
The soul is made of three components: mind, will and emotions.
Your mind thinks, reasons, perceives, judges and remembers. Your mind stores and processes information. Your mind right now has a collection of facts, perceptions and deceptions.
Your will directs your intentions. Ultimately, your choices are driven by your will. A weak–willed person is easily influenced by emotion over reason. A weak-willed person quickly changes their decisions, opinions, or plans and is easily manipulated by others.
On the flip side, a person that is strong willed when misinformed though they stick to their guns and not budge–is out of balance. Either extreme is not productive.
Your emotions are more than feelings. Feelings are a series of sensations. Your emotions are a collection of sensations; perceived by your mind or your body. Feelings are not facts.
We all have a responsibility to nourish our soul if we want to live our best life.
As adults, we cannot be singular in our existence. We cannot only be driven by the mind, or only by the will or only by emotions. And, while that seems like a simple enough statement, the quality of our life is determined by how balanced we are: mind, will and emotions.
You are a spiritual being that operates your soul while in the body.
Achieving our financial goals for example, has a lot to do with “why” you spend and not just “how” you spend. Financial fortitude is not about how much money you have but how you use what you have to obtain your needs and aspirations.
Even, spiritually–spiritual growth is more than church attendance and being used in the choir or soup kitchen. It’s so not about how well a sermon is preached or how well a bible lesson is taught.
Spiritual growth is the continual transformation of our mind, will and emotions to that of Christ and our Heavenly Father.
Your mental perception, purpose-driven will and emotional maturity will lead your best life. Health, wealth, wisdom and so much more are experienced through the body and the soul, so we must strive to be healthy and whole.
Never say “OK, I’ll stop learning and stop dreaming because I’ve reached my limit”. There are no limits to what you can achieve and obtain in Christ–here and the Kingdom to come. Don’t quit. Don’t lay down defeated. Don’t make excuses for your failures, learn from them. Learn from others that are where you want to be. Don’t just learn, day-dream, sketch and draw–then erase and start over if you have to. Have fun with this.
This term “clarity of soul” means that a person can clearly see themselves as they are without pre-conceived ideas of how they are supposed to be. Strive for clarity of soul and spiritual excellence.
Personal transformation begins in the soul and manifests in our decisions and actions.
How should you feed our soul?
Would you go days or weeks without food and water? Your mind needs for you to file some stuff out and file some stuff in. You can’t keep reading, reading, reading and think you’re actually retaining all of it. You don’t need everything that’s in your mind by the constant bombardment of everyday living, people, past abusers, commercials and the like.
You want to do this weekly. As you read a newspaper or book, ask yourself “How do I feel about that? What do I know about that? Do I need to know that?” “What do I need to research? Who is going to tell me the truth about what I’m researching? What are the footnotes, bibliography and references and how can I read them?” Write the answers as side notes on the page and read over it after four weeks to see what you’ve learned. And of course, keep a journal. “The pen is mightier than the sword.” Edward Bulwer-Lytton
Please don’t confuse a christian writer as a truthful writer. Don’t believe it because they said it. Even, the Lord said “Come let us reason together.” (Isaiah 1:18) Don’t be afraid to challenge anyone who calls themselves an authority in any given area or expertise.
Feed your soul with truth and affirm who you are. Speak good to yourself and about yourself. A healthy self-image is so important. Make it a habit to do exciting, enjoyable non-religious/non-spiritual things. Go swimming, climb a mountain, go for coffee with a friend, start a new hobby. So many Christians are super-uptight. Believe me, behind their smile is insincerity–with minds that are filled with lust, accusations and a bunch of junk.
Take care of yourself. Beautify yourself. Love hard and forgive often.
I’ve shared a few anecdotes on how to bring your soul the clarity it needs to live a fuller, more adventurous life. There is so many places to go, things to do and people to meet. Don’t just live a little; live a lot!
Posted on July 4, 2017
It’s summer in New York. Yeah!
I was born in the winter but I stopped liking winter a long time ago. I was born in the inner city but I’ve grown to dislike the city with a passion. I don’t like the crowds and all the noise.
Yesterday, my husband was invited by one of his softball companions to a barbecue in Upstate New York. I took this picture on my nature walk through the mountain trails.
Beautiful; sunny and hot. Just like I like it.
The calm of the trails I walked upon were completely therapeutic. I believe God designed it that way. The smell of the greenery and wild flowers has a way of touching the soul.
I believe that herbs and even some flowers are holistically designed by our Creator to heal the human body.
There is a whole science to the study of colors and how different colors affect a person mentally and emotionally. Also, the science of aromatherapy studies how various scents affect a person mentally and emotionally.
There I was smack dab in the middle of a spiritual concert. My senses of sight, smell and hearing were in full alert.
All of nature is perfectly balanced. The discerning eye can see the benefits of all that nature provides. The green of the leaves and bushes are symbolic for life, health, growth and prosperity. The morning song of the birds chirping symbolize communication and alertness. The scents of the forest signify rest and prayer.
We all need a regular dose of fresh air, peace and quiet. It’s so easy to fall into a pattern of busy-ness that we forget to take a health break. We need our soul refreshed and a nature walk–though it sounds simple is just what the doctor ordered. We can never get too much of it.
Nature walks are good for meditation and provide a great environment to pray. Jesus was known to go the mountain often to pray and meditate. In this quiet place, creativity can run free. With a notebook and pen in hand, your nature walk can inspire needful strategies for the issues at hand and offer the blueprints necessary for a new financial plan or ideas to apply to your marriage.
I plan on taking full advantage of these summer days to walk, meditate and pray. Many picnics and visits to the pool are on the agenda. I hope you do too. You may need to travel a few hours to the mountains but your nature walks can be at a nearby park or beach.
Give good care to your soul. The three-fold cord of mind, will and emotions need the therapeutic benefits of what nature has to offer.
Make a conscience decision to take care of your soul. Take nature walks. Take some alone time to relax and bask in the glory of God’s creation (nature).
You are both a natural being and a spiritual being. If you take care of your soul; your soul will take of you.
Posted on June 26, 2017
Posted on June 20, 2017
When we’re young, we want to grow up fast. But, when we’re old, we want to be young. Regardless of our age, the most important thing is not how many years we’ve been on the planet but how we have lived those years.
In the early nineteen seventies, the big phrase in the psychological field was “dysfunctional families”. This term tried to explain why a person was broken and self-destructive.
In the early nineteen eighties, the big phrase was “Inner child.” Self help gurus used this term to explain one’s inner turmoil and inability to grow emotionally and psycho-logically. Billions of dollars is being spent on psychiatric medicine to combat depression, anxiety and other mental disorders that once was believed that could be shaken off.
I think we’ve all been through something that was very distressing and hurtful. Some people have had very painful childhoods with sexual and physical abuse. Or, a marriage that is verbally abusive and so on. Some have grown up in poverty experiencing hunger or neglect. Some have lost a lost to a sudden death.
Life can seem so burdensome and unfair.
Just because we are Christians doesn’t mean that our life will not be without challenges. How we go through the challenges determines how much of life we can truly enjoy.
We can dance in rain when the storms of life come. We can laugh at adversity and thrive wherever we are planted. But this will take a whole new way thinking.
“I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.”
The abundant life is the result of having planted the seed of life.
What we do with life creates an abundance of more life. Are you being proactive or reactive? Are you being objective and not subjective? Are you being introspective and not inattentive?
It’s easy to fall back and spectate at the lives of people who are doing better than we are. Isn’t that what most of television is about? Life is so short that we shouldn’t be living our life through others.
Jesus’ promise of the abundant life is about the life that is unhindered by finances or lack of health. The abundant life is a life that can maneuver through difficultly effortlessly. Because of the Holy Spirit, there is an endless wellspring of anointing, knowledge and wisdom. (John 4:10) All of this is to make your life worth living.
Life is so short and there is so much for you do that is fun, uplifting and productive. There is so much to enjoy. What would you like to do? Where would you like to go? Do you have a business idea? Is there a charitable work that you would like to start? Do you want to go back to school? Do you want to make new friends?
The Holy Spirit helps us with the big things and the little things. The Holy Spirit enables us to live our best life now. There is wisdom without end; just tap into it. There is wealth without measure; pull it. There is health without limit; reach for it.
How do you tap into the abundant life?
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. Romans 12:2
Can you see yourself healed doing the things you used to do?
Are you praying without ceasing?
Are you reading and declaring healing scriptures?
Do you have others standing with you praying for healing?
Are you doing what you’re impediment is hindering in a different way? For instance, the blind have a heightened sense of hearing that they use to their advantage.
Are you praying for others that need healing?
All these questions are examples for whatever our need is.
Take your needs to the Lord in prayer; believe and you will receive.
Posted on June 15, 2017
Posted on June 14, 2017
No matter what you lack be that finances, health or the like — what you seek and what you need is found in the depth of God’s presence.
The closer you get to God, the closer you get to what abides in God.
Many seek His hand; the wise seek His heart. In His heart, the issues of His life flow. The closer you are to His heart, the closer you are to the out-flow of God. (Proverbs 4:23). The out-flow is what proceeds out of God. What flows out of God becomes your in-flow.
How close will you go? The closer you get, the deeper your reach. The deeper you reach, the more you get. I don’t know about you but I want a lot. The depth of your thirst determines the amount of water you will drink and it’s from the place of need that you receive.
Spiritual blessings don’t require rocket-science. You don’t need to become a Bible scholar or perform great feats.
When your desire for God supersedes your desire for what He provides; in your state of abiding, God is providing.
Abiding is the state of one-ness with God. When you are one with God; you end where God begins. In this state of abiding, access to what God possesses become your possessions. Your spiritual inheritance is the transfer of what God owns into your hands. So that, in the place of personal emptiness, His riches are poured.
God’s provision flows through your submission.
Some look for a handout but the Holy Spirit wants to give us a hand up. Up is where the glory is. Up is where the power is.
The Lord wants to become one with you. Get closer.
Your heavenly Father doesn’t want you to live in constant need.
Where His glory is, so also His power.
Your spiritual inheritance is without measure.
Step into His glory and watch your circumstances transformed by His power.